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Push Pull Communication: Definition, Concept, Origins in Social Dynamics & Seduction

In seduction and influence psychology, push pull communication involves the art of alternating hot(pull) and cold(push) behaviour to disguise intentions, attract people, and compel interest. We see it often in game, business & marketing and general communication and social dynamics behaviour. This article goes over definitions, how to recognise push pull communication, and how to understand the concept – in case it matters. Let’s get started.

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What Is A Power Dynamic? Psychological Self-Defense #2

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What Is Cold Approaching? The Complete 3 Part Guide

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How To Date With Trauma – 3 Ways To Keep Baggage From Interfering

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How To Date – Dating Advice vs. Dating Success

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Tinder & Self-Esteem: How Dating Apps Ruined My Self-Image

I was lucky enough to be introduced to the concept of dating apps when Tinder started creeping into the mainstream. Around eight years ago, I picked up the app for the first time, unknowingly putting my self-esteem on the chopping block as I did so. Let’s learn about how I managed this.

Goal Oriented Thinking: 6 Steps To Achieve Your Goals

The thing standing between you and your goals isn’t luck. It’s not an accident that you don’t have EXACTLY what you want from life. It’s because you and your thoughts aren’t on the same team. Your decision making is ruining you before you ever had a chance. This article is about goal-oriented thinking, a mental framework that we use to make decisions. Read now and take back control of your psychology.

How To Escape the Friendzone and Go From Friends to Dating

Men and women often struggle with something called the friendzone. It’s a concept where unrequited feelings are held by one person, and not reciprocated in the other. Often, people struggle navigating these feelings, and want nothing more than to escape – to find a way for the person they like to like them back. This is a guide to navigating these situations. Read on and see how.
Man sitting cross legged on the ground, using a dating app like tinder whilst looking sad about his poor self esteem

How To Use Tinder and Other Apps Without Damaging Your Self-Esteem

Tinder and other dating apps damage your state of mind and self esteem. We all know this. These apps are designed to be for profit, squeezing every last dollar out of an economy of loneliness and sadness. Hinge, Bumble, Tinder, they’re all the same. The only way to prevent this is by going in prepared. Read on to find out how.
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The Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord: What Is It and How Does It Work?

Relationship anarchy is all about picking and choosing what you want from your relationships. You need a menu to select from. Enter, the relationship anarchy smorgasbord. By picking and choosing your boundaries, wants and needs, your relationships start to look exactly the way you want them. This is your guide to the smorgasbord itself.
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How To Be A Good Listener – Active Listening in 5 Steps

Good listening – active listening – is not some difficult concept to achieve. Most people that find themselves good at conversation have focused on developing their skills over time. It just takes a little bit of practice. This guide will give you the roadmap and teach you how to be a good listener. Let’s dive in.
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How to Flirt with Someone You Just Met: A Full Guide To Flirting

Learning how to flirt can be hard. It’s a specific skill we’re never taught. The balance of humour, chemistry, romance and subtlety can be really difficult to balance without knowing how. Thankfully, this guide is here. This is a full guide to flirting, with someone you just met or have been interested in for a while. Read on to find out how it works.
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Why Doesn’t My Boyfriend Communicate?

If you’ve ever asked yourself why your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t communicate with you, this article should help you answer that question. In the rest of this article, you’ll learn how we learn to communicate, why we are the way we are, and what to do about it. This should give you everything you need to solve a communication breakdown inside your relationship. Let’s get started.
A man looking confused at an array of clothing racks, because he does not know how to dress for a date.

How To Dress For A Date – Making The Right First Impression

How you dress on dates reflects everything – confidence, image, social awareness. It’s really difficult to understand how you should present yourself without a framework that teaches the right principles. When you understand the basic fundamentals, it’s a simple matter of picking the outfit that best reflects you. This article will show you how.
A clingy partner of a man chasing a woman with chains littering the floor

How To Deal With A Clingy Partner – Managing Fear and Insecurities

If you’re grappling with a partner’s clinginess, understanding its roots in insecurities or past traumas is key. Recognize signs like excessive messaging, a desire to be constantly together, jealousy, and emotional manipulation. This is how you work together with your partner to deal with clinginess and develop stronger relationship foundations. Let’s get into it.
A man standing with a shield against soundwaves, representing how to deal with rejection

How to Deal With Rejection: A Guide to Emotional Resilience

Whether it’s a declined job application or an unrequited love, the emotional toll can be devastating. But what if I told you that rejection isn’t the end of the world? In fact, it can be a stepping stone to personal growth and emotional resilience. In this article, we’ll explore the psychology of rejection and provide actionable steps to handle it gracefully.
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First Date Ideas: How To Make a Memorable First Impression

First dates can be nerve-wracking, exciting, and full of possibilities. The question is, how do you make it memorable for the right reasons? In this comprehensive guide, we’ll explore creative first date ideas and weigh their pros and cons. So, let’s get started!
A man alone inside a desert, looking dejected and excluded.

The Zero-Sum Game: Making Men Feel Better

In the balance of gender dynamics, men and women are competitive. I, and dozens of others, think that doesn’t need to be true. Read now, and discover what a healthy philosophy on improving a large chunk of the human population looks like.
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Mental Health Makes Everything Easier – How To Get Out Of Your Own Way

Advice is often offered in a vacuum. We watch educational videos or ask friends and family for their opinions on a specific topic, hoping that our problem is localised, and that the solution will be equally narrow. Go to the doctor, get a prescription for a pill that solves your exact issue with no overlap or side effects. That’s the dream. We would like it very much if life was just as prescriptive. Mental health can be. Let’s learn why it’s important.
A polyamorous open relationship of three people holding hands together

What Are Open Relationships And Polyamory – A Comprehensive Guide

For people that either don’t enjoy monogamy or want to try something new, the concept of open relationships and polyamory can be very interesting. But what are open relationships? Let’s find out what they mean and how they work.
Woman on her knees giving flowers to her partner, demonstrating a selfless relationship

Why Selfless Relationships Last Longer – How To Be Less Selfish

Selfish relationships are what we’re pushed into, by our peers, our environment and our surroundings. We learn to be ruthless and transactional from our past experiences, especially if they such. This article tells you how to think about it to avoid the consequences.
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Trusting Your Gut: How To Listen To Your Intuition and Make Better Decisions

In a world filled with endless choices and complex decisions, finding a reliable compass to guide you can be challenging. Your intuition, often referred to as your “gut feeling,” is that innate sense within you that can offer profound insights and guide you toward better decisions. Trusting your gut is not just a hunch; it’s a skill that can be cultivated to make more informed choices. This article delves into the art of listening to your intuition, providing actionable steps, personal experiences, and expert advice to help you harness the power of your instincts.
A man with a tie on himself struggling with impulse control and bad behaviour.

The Bad Behaviour Problem: Why Good People Do Bad Things

Self-control is harder than you’d think. It can be incredibly challenging to maintain our values in the face of trauma, ancient defense mechanisms, and the temptations that life throws us. This article is all about how good people do bad things. Let’s get started.
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Assertiveness Training: How to Stand Up For Yourself Without Being Aggressive

In a world that values effective communication, mastering the skill of assertiveness is crucial. Assertiveness training empowers you to express your thoughts, needs, and boundaries with confidence and respect, without resorting to aggression. This article delves deep into the realm of assertiveness training, providing insights, strategies, and practical advice to help you navigate various scenarios while maintaining your dignity and relationships.
A man reaching for a smorgasbord of options all at once, depicting the style of relationship that answers 'what is relationship anarchy'

What is Relationship Anarchy? Exploring Non-Traditional Relationships

In a world where relationships are often defined by societal norms and labels, relationship anarchy strikes me as a refreshing and liberating concept. Most people begin by raising the question; what is relationship anarchy? Relationship anarchy challenges traditional notions of relationships by emphasising individual autonomy, open communication, and the absence of hierarchical structures. In this article, we’ll delve deep into the intricacies of relationship anarchy, exploring its principles, benefits, and potential challenges.
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How Long Should You Date Before Getting into a Relationship?

In the realm of modern dating, the journey from casual dating to a committed relationship can be both exciting and daunting. You might find yourself pondering, “How long should you date before getting into a relationship?” This question doesn’t have a one-size-fits-all answer, as it depends on various factors such as personal preferences, emotional connection, and shared values. In this comprehensive guide, we’ll delve into the intricacies of relationship timelines, providing you with valuable insights to make an informed decision about your romantic journey.
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How To Develop Good Communication In A Relationship

Effective communication is the cornerstone of a healthy and fulfilling relationship. It goes beyond just exchanging words; it involves listening, understanding, and empathizing with your partner. In this comprehensive guide, we’ll delve into the various facets of communication that contribute to successful relationships. Whether you’re in a new romance or a long-term commitment, understanding what good communication looks like can enhance your connection and lead to lasting happiness.
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How to Give Compliments on a Date: The Art of Genuine Appreciation

Dating can be an exciting and nerve-wracking experience, especially when you’re trying to make a meaningful connection with someone new. One effective way to break the ice and create a positive atmosphere is by giving sincere compliments. The way you express your admiration can significantly influence your date’s perception of you. In this comprehensive guide, we’ll delve into the art of giving compliments on a date, providing you with expert insights, practical tips, and real-life examples to help you master this skill and leave a lasting impact.
A woman with a brain bursting with love and affection, managing how to date someone with a different love language.

How to Date Someone with a Different Love Language

In today’s fast-paced world, relationships come in all shapes and forms, and dating someone with a different love language can add a layer of complexity to the mix. However, with the right approach and a willingness to understand and embrace each other’s differences, you can create a fulfilling and harmonious bond. In this article, we’ll delve into the world of love languages, explore strategies for navigating them, and provide actionable insights to help you connect on a deeper level with your partner.
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The Evergreen Statement

This is one of the first essays I ever wrote that described my views of the world, humans and relationships. It means a lot to me. I hope you enjoy it.
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The Ethical Whore

Promiscuity is a bad thing. Until it isn’t. And then it is again. Is it possible to sleep around without judgement, shame or hurt feelings? I certainly think so. Let’s find out how.
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Lasting Love and Happiness: Strategies From A Pick-Up Artist

Are you tired of being alone? Fed up with striking out with potential partners? It’s time to try something new and revolutionary: the world of pick-up artists and their controversial relationship advice! Found on the dark side of dating advice, they claim to teach the key to unlocking the hearts of anyone they desire. Quite rightly, not everyone is a fan of these so-called experts, and some say their techniques are manipulative and even dangerous. Problematic, sexist, and downright harmful to a generation of sex-obsessed young men, they’re looked down on with ridicule and scorn. Most of us are urged not to listen to them or mimic their techniques and opinions, lest we fall into similarly predatory behaviors… Naturally, I went and read a bunch of their books. This is what I learned.
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How To Break Up With Someone And Minimize The Pain

Breakups are never simple, straightforward or easy. Luckily there are ways to minimise the fallout. Here’s a tactical guide on how to manage a split with someone without causing too much pain. Let’s get started.
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The Incel Trajectory: How Men Turn Into Monsters

I’ve been told by multiple online gurus that you should be documenting and not creating. Whatever creative medium you’re pursuing, the value comes from demonstrating your journey from novice to master. More than that, the reason someone would look upon that progression from an outside perspective is that they want to learn the same thing that you have, but quicker. We watch cooking videos to skip experimenting with recipes ourselves, and to learn what works best from someone else that’s already done it. Therefore, the value in documentation comes from blazing a trail and allowing the next generation to learn from your successes and failures.
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How To Have a Healthy And Safe Casual Relationship

The number one thing men fear on dating apps is that the girl will be overweight. The number one thing women fear is dying. Casual relationships have a stigma – that they’re unsafe or unhealthy. That doesn’t have to be the case. Here’s some ground rules to help.
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When and How To Have ‘The Talk’ In Your Relationship

‘The talk’ – Either the start of a relationship or the end of it. It can be hard to confront someone with what might inevitably be a deal breaker or a conversation you can’t come back from. This article will show you how.
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Bad Sex Is Better Than A Good Breakup – Sleeping Together Early

Finding out your relationship sucks before it starts is one thing. Finding out it sucks after you’re already in it is worse. Here’s an article strongly arguing for a more thorough vetting process – and to have a little fun while you do it.
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How To Get Girls To Like You By Looking At Things On The Internet

The information online about how to get girls is as vast as it is ridiculous. There’s a good way and a bad way to find your information about relationships online. In this article, we learn why and how that is.
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He changes reality to suit him.

One of my most popular articles on medium.com – it comes from a series I did from the perspective of abusers and narcissists. I hope you like it.
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He thinks about how to love bomb you.

One of my most popular articles on medium.com – it comes from a series I did from the perspective of abusers and narcissists. I hope you like it.
Evil man squeezing a heart, showing how he never really loved you

He never really loved you.

One of my most popular articles on medium.com – it comes from a series I did from the perspective of abusers and narcissists. I hope you like it.
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How To Choose Your Own Values and Be The Person You Want

As part of growing up, we get to choose the kind of person we want to be. It’s hard, yes, but also very rewarding, as we get to choose our own values and exemplify what we care about. This is how I did it for myself, and how you can do it too.
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Psychological Self-Defense: Plausible Deniability and How To Deal With It

Psychological self-defense is just as important as the physical kind. We train our bodies to be resistant to attack or strain, but we don’t train our mind. Here’s an article about plausible deniability, a common tactic used by manipulators and liars to disguise what they’re doing.