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Plausible Deniability

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A concept in social dynamics that liars use to cover up their deceit – and how to spot it.

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How our sentence composition creates implicit & sneaky assumptions we can use to steer conversations.

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Can A Worm Feel Love?

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Cain Parish

For some reason, we are debating the sentience, consciousness and emotions of worms and insects. Call it a thought exercise.

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Philosophy, Thought Pieces

How To Do The Most With Words – A Guide To Selective Synonyms

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Cain Parish

Selective synonymy is the process by which we select and use one word over another. Learn about how context and connotation inform our language.

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Learning to Communicate, Narcissists & Manipulation, Psychological Self-Defense, Thought Pieces

The Relationship Roadmap – 2 Categories for a Healthy Relationship

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Cain Parish

A comprehensive breakdown of typical stages in romantic relationship development.

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Basics, Relationships & Communication, Self Improvement, Thought Pieces

Should You Compromise In A Relationship?

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Cain Parish

Attitudes towards a relationship can inform success, failure and the lived experience of all involved.

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Basics, Breakups, Learning to Communicate, Philosophy, Relationships & Communication, Thought Pieces

How To Be Attractive, aka Why Goth Girls Are Hot

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Cain Parish

Being attractive is about inspiring interest – knowing how to act in an appreciable way towards your partner.

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Basics, Becoming Attractive, Philosophy, Self Improvement, Thought Pieces

What are Presuppositions? Examples, Contexts and 5 Different Types

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Presuppositions – a technique to subtly frame conversations by embedding implicit assumptions, allowing people to influence and persuade.

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Guest Pieces, Learning to Communicate, Narcissists & Manipulation, Psychological Self-Defense

What Is A Power Dynamic? Psychological Self-Defense #2

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Cain Parish

Power dynamics exist in all relationships. Learn about your psychological self-defense and prevent them from being abused around you.

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Guest Pieces, Narcissists & Manipulation, Psychological Self-Defense

What Is Cold Approaching? The Complete 3 Part Guide

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Cain Parish

Learn how to cold approach – initiating conversations with complete strangers.

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Basics, Dating & Meeting People, Guest Pieces

How To Date With Trauma – 3 Ways To Keep Baggage From Interfering

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Cain Parish

Successfully dating with trauma requires self-awareness, emotional regulation, and proactive healing rather than relying on a partner to fix past wounds.

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Mental Wellbeing, Self Improvement, Thought Pieces

How To Date – Dating Advice vs. Dating Success

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Cain Parish

Dating requires adaptability, not rigid strategies – learn to find success from reading and responding to unique interpersonal dynamics.

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Basics, Philosophy, Thought Pieces

Goal Oriented Thinking: 6 Steps To Achieve Your Goals

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Cain Parish

Goal-oriented thinking is a mental framework designed to simplify decision-making by working backward from a desired outcome.

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Basics, Fundamentals, Guest Pieces

The Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord: What Is It and How Does It Work?

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Cain Parish

What is the relationship anarchy smorgasbord? A concise method for picking what you want for your relationships.

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Basics, Guest Pieces, Relationship Styles

How to Flirt with Someone You Just Met: A Full Guide To Flirting

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Cain Parish

Flirting is a blend of confidence, communication, and social awareness, allowing individuals to express attraction while gauging interest in a playful and engaging way. Learn how to flirt.

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Basics, Flirting, Guest Pieces

Why Doesn’t My Boyfriend Communicate?

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Cain Parish

Diagnose issues in speaking the language of your partner.

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Building & Sustaining Relationships, Guest Pieces, Relationships & Communication

How to Deal With Rejection: A Guide to Emotional Resilience

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Cain Parish

Rejection activates emotional pain responses tied to past experiences. Here’s what to do with that.

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Dating & Meeting People, Guest Pieces, Rejection

Psychological Self-Defense: What Is Passive Aggression?

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Cain Parish

Learn about passive aggression – an indirect way of expressing hostility and negative sentiment.

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Guest Pieces, Narcissists & Manipulation, Psychological Self-Defense, Relationships & Communication, Self Improvement

The Zero-Sum Game: Making Men Feel Better

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Cain Parish

How concern for men’s attitudes and mental health can be a topic worth discussing.

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Basics, Featured, Philosophy, Thought Pieces

What Are Open Relationships And Polyamory – A Comprehensive Guide

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Cain Parish

Multiple relationships can coexist while balancing emotional complexity and situational nuance. Here’s how.

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Basics, Guest Pieces, Relationship Styles

Why Selfless Relationships Last Longer – How To Be Less Selfish

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Successful relationships are built when both partners prioritise giving and collaboration over selfish desires.

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Basics, Fundamentals, Thought Pieces

Trusting Your Gut: How To Listen To Your Intuition and Make Better Decisions

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Cain Parish

Developing and refining intuition allows for quicker, more confident decision-making.

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Mental Wellbeing, Self Improvement, Thought Pieces

The Bad Behaviour Problem: Why Good People Do Bad Things

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Cain Parish

Unexamined impulses, rooted in past defense mechanisms, can lead to self-sabotage.

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Basics, Philosophy, Thought Pieces

What is Relationship Anarchy? Exploring Non-Traditional Relationships

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Cain Parish

Relationship anarchy prioritises personal autonomy and fluid boundaries, enabling partners to define their relationships freely while emphasising communication, consent and comfort of all involved.

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Basics, Guest Pieces, Relationship Styles

How Long Should You Date Before Getting into a Relationship?

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Cain Parish

Building a strong foundation through emotional connection, communication, and aligned values is important. How long does that take?

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Building & Sustaining Relationships, Guest Pieces, Relationships & Communication

How To Develop Good Communication In A Relationship

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Cain Parish

Communication in relationships is not just about speaking but about ensuring clarity, emotional safety, and constructive dialogue

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Guest Pieces, Learning to Communicate, Relationships & Communication

The Evergreen Statement

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Cain Parish

This is my evergreen statement – a general stance and philosophy towards my relationships that I hope carries into the rest of my life.

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Basics, Featured, Philosophy, Thought Pieces

The Ethical Whore

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Cain Parish

Ethical promiscuity is not about the number of partners but about intentionality, responsibility, and mutual respect.

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Casual Dating, Dating & Meeting People, Thought Pieces

Lasting Love and Happiness: Strategies From A Pick-Up Artist

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Cain Parish

Understanding your relationship patterns requires re-parenting yourself and ensuring your choices stem from self-awareness.

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Casual Dating, Dating & Meeting People, Thought Pieces

The Incel Trajectory: How Men Turn Into Monsters

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Cain Parish

The business of self-improvement has turned personal growth into a commodity, prioritising profit over real transformation.

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Self Improvement, Thought Pieces

How To Have a Healthy And Safe Casual Relationship

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Cain Parish

Casual dating is about balancing excitement with precaution, ensuring safety without sacrificing fun.

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Casual Dating, Dating & Meeting People, Thought Pieces

Bad Sex Is Better Than A Good Breakup – Sleeping Together Early

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Cain Parish

Physical compatibility is a crucial factor in relationships, and testing it early can prevent emotional investment in a bad match.

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Breakups, Relationships & Communication, Thought Pieces

How To Get Girls To Like You By Looking At Things On The Internet

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Cain Parish

Seeking dating advice online often reinforces harmful biases instead of encouraging meaningful self-growth.

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Becoming Attractive, Self Improvement, Thought Pieces

Psychological Self-Defense: Plausible Deniability and How To Deal With It

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Cain Parish

Plausible deniability allows manipulators to avoid accountability by subtly directing conversations – learning to recognise and confront this tactic is the best defense.

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Psychological Self-Defense, Thought Pieces