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Cain Parish is a communication analyst & author, developing essays, books & consulting on topics such as:
Psychology
Sociology
Sociolinguistics
Social dynamics
Applied pragmatics
Relationship development
Dating & culture
Persuasion
Behaviour economics
Charisma
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Generative language
Rapport building
Featured essays – insights
into things like:
Selective Synonymy
Read moreThe linguistic phenomenon that leads us to choose one word over another – and why it matters.
Plausible Deniability
Read moreA concept in social dynamics that liars use to cover up their deceit – and how to spot it.
Pre – Suppositions
Read moreHow our sentence composition creates implicit & sneaky assumptions we can use to steer conversations.
Relationship Roadmap
Read moreA clear start to finish progression of a typical romantic timeline – for benchmarks or a checklist.
Speech Act Theory
Read moreHow the structure of human language works, and how to use it to win friends & influence people.
Perlocution Metrics
Read moreCombining science and linguistic philosophy to determine how people perceive our speech.
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Applied pragmatics
Sociolinguistics
Persuasion
Relationship development
Behaviour economics
Linguistic philosophy
Generative language
Rapport building
Sociology
Psychology
Charisma
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Browse the latest essays:
How To Do The Most With Words – A Guide To Selective Synonyms
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Cain Parish
Selective synonymy is the process by which we select and use one word over another. Learn about how context and connotation inform our language.
Read moreThe Relationship Roadmap – 2 Categories for a Healthy Relationship
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Cain Parish
A comprehensive breakdown of typical stages in romantic relationship development.
Read moreShould You Compromise In A Relationship?
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Cain Parish
Attitudes towards a relationship can inform success, failure and the lived experience of all involved.
Read moreHow To Be Attractive, aka Why Goth Girls Are Hot
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Cain Parish
Being attractive is about inspiring interest – knowing how to act in an appreciable way towards your partner.
Read moreWhat are Presuppositions? Examples, Contexts and 5 Different Types
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Cain Parish
Presuppositions – a technique to subtly frame conversations by embedding implicit assumptions, allowing people to influence and persuade.
Read moreWhat Is A Power Dynamic? Psychological Self-Defense #2
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Cain Parish
Power dynamics exist in all relationships. Learn about your psychological self-defense and prevent them from being abused around you.
Read moreWhat Is Cold Approaching? The Complete 3 Part Guide
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Cain Parish
Learn how to cold approach – initiating conversations with complete strangers.
Read moreHow To Date With Trauma – 3 Ways To Keep Baggage From Interfering
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Cain Parish
Successfully dating with trauma requires self-awareness, emotional regulation, and proactive healing rather than relying on a partner to fix past wounds.
Read moreHow To Date – Dating Advice vs. Dating Success
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Cain Parish
Dating requires adaptability, not rigid strategies – learn to find success from reading and responding to unique interpersonal dynamics.
Read moreGoal Oriented Thinking: 6 Steps To Achieve Your Goals
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Cain Parish
Goal-oriented thinking is a mental framework designed to simplify decision-making by working backward from a desired outcome.
Read moreThe Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord: What Is It and How Does It Work?
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Cain Parish
What is the relationship anarchy smorgasbord? A concise method for picking what you want for your relationships.
Read moreHow to Flirt with Someone You Just Met: A Full Guide To Flirting
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Cain Parish
Flirting is a blend of confidence, communication, and social awareness, allowing individuals to express attraction while gauging interest in a playful and engaging way. Learn how to flirt.
Read moreWhy Doesn’t My Boyfriend Communicate?
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Cain Parish
Diagnose issues in speaking the language of your partner.
Read moreHow to Deal With Rejection: A Guide to Emotional Resilience
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Cain Parish
Rejection activates emotional pain responses tied to past experiences. Here’s what to do with that.
Read morePsychological Self-Defense: What Is Passive Aggression?
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Cain Parish
Learn about passive aggression – an indirect way of expressing hostility and negative sentiment.
Read moreThe Zero-Sum Game: Making Men Feel Better
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Cain Parish
How concern for men’s attitudes and mental health can be a topic worth discussing.
Read moreWhat Are Open Relationships And Polyamory – A Comprehensive Guide
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Cain Parish
Multiple relationships can coexist while balancing emotional complexity and situational nuance. Here’s how.
Read moreWhy Selfless Relationships Last Longer – How To Be Less Selfish
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Cain Parish
Successful relationships are built when both partners prioritise giving and collaboration over selfish desires.
Read moreTrusting Your Gut: How To Listen To Your Intuition and Make Better Decisions
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Cain Parish
Developing and refining intuition allows for quicker, more confident decision-making.
Read moreThe Bad Behaviour Problem: Why Good People Do Bad Things
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Unexamined impulses, rooted in past defense mechanisms, can lead to self-sabotage.
Read moreWhat is Relationship Anarchy? Exploring Non-Traditional Relationships
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Relationship anarchy prioritises personal autonomy and fluid boundaries, enabling partners to define their relationships freely while emphasising communication, consent and comfort of all involved.
Read moreHow Long Should You Date Before Getting into a Relationship?
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Cain Parish
Building a strong foundation through emotional connection, communication, and aligned values is important. How long does that take?
Read moreHow To Develop Good Communication In A Relationship
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Cain Parish
Communication in relationships is not just about speaking but about ensuring clarity, emotional safety, and constructive dialogue
Read moreThe Evergreen Statement
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This is my evergreen statement – a general stance and philosophy towards my relationships that I hope carries into the rest of my life.
Read moreThe Ethical Whore
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Ethical promiscuity is not about the number of partners but about intentionality, responsibility, and mutual respect.
Read moreLasting Love and Happiness: Strategies From A Pick-Up Artist
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Cain Parish
Understanding your relationship patterns requires re-parenting yourself and ensuring your choices stem from self-awareness.
Read moreThe Incel Trajectory: How Men Turn Into Monsters
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Cain Parish
The business of self-improvement has turned personal growth into a commodity, prioritising profit over real transformation.
Read moreHow To Have a Healthy And Safe Casual Relationship
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Cain Parish
Casual dating is about balancing excitement with precaution, ensuring safety without sacrificing fun.
Read moreBad Sex Is Better Than A Good Breakup – Sleeping Together Early
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Cain Parish
Physical compatibility is a crucial factor in relationships, and testing it early can prevent emotional investment in a bad match.
Read moreHow To Get Girls To Like You By Looking At Things On The Internet
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Cain Parish
Seeking dating advice online often reinforces harmful biases instead of encouraging meaningful self-growth.
Read morePsychological Self-Defense: Plausible Deniability and How To Deal With It
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Cain Parish
Plausible deniability allows manipulators to avoid accountability by subtly directing conversations – learning to recognise and confront this tactic is the best defense.
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