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Psychology

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Applied pragmatics

Relationship development

Dating & culture

Persuasion

Behaviour economics

Charisma

Linguistic philosophy

Generative language

Rapport building

Evidence-based insights
into things like:

Selective Synonymy

The linguistic phenomenon that leads us to choose one word over another – and why it matters.

Plausible Deniability

A concept in social dynamics that liars use to cover up their deceit – and how to spot it.

Pre – Suppositions

How our sentence composition creates implicit & sneaky assumptions we can use to steer conversations.

Relationship Roadmap

A clear start to finish progression of a typical romantic timeline – for benchmarks or a checklist.

Emotional Intimacy

Basic fundamentals of human to human connection, from vulnerability to deep intimate bonds.

Perlocution Metrics

Combining science and linguistic philosophy to determine how people perceive our speech.

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Behaviour economics

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Sociology

Psychology

Charisma

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8+ years of industry experience.

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8 Steps for Handling Conflict Resolution and Emotions in Healthy Relationships

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March 21, 2025

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Evidence-based strategies for managing conflict and emotions in relationships that turn disagreements into opportunities for deeper intimacy between partners.

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November 7, 2024

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Cain Parish

Selective synonymy is the process by which we select and use one word over another. Learn about how context and connotation inform our language.

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November 1, 2024

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Cain Parish

A comprehensive breakdown of typical stages in romantic relationship development.

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September 17, 2024

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Cain Parish

Attitudes towards a relationship can inform success, failure and the lived experience of all involved.

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September 7, 2024

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Cain Parish

Being attractive is about inspiring interest – knowing how to act in an appreciable way towards your partner.

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September 2, 2024

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Cain Parish

Presuppositions – a technique to subtly frame conversations by embedding implicit assumptions, allowing people to influence and persuade.

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July 12, 2024

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Cain Parish

For some – genuine social relationships can be confusing. Here’s how to understand and develop platonic friendships.

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July 12, 2024

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Cain Parish

This guide will examine the intricacies of human interaction, offering knowledge that can positively impact your personal and professional relationships.

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July 12, 2024

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Cain Parish

Influence psychology explains why certain individuals possess a natural ability to persuade others. This is the powerful force that shapes our daily interactions and decision-making processes.

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July 8, 2024

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Cain Parish

The act of listening that enhances communication and relationships through active conversational participation.

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May 5, 2024

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Cain Parish

Insecurity can hamper your relationships by injecting a degree of uncertainty into your dealings with others. Learn how to deal with it.

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May 5, 2024

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Cain Parish

A common question from those suffering heartbreak is always ‘How do I move on after a breakup?’. This is a jumping-off point.

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April 19, 2024

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Cain Parish

Push pull communication – a communication technique that alternates between emotional warmth and detachment, often used for influence and attraction.

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April 9, 2024

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Cain Parish

Power dynamics exist in all relationships. Learn about your psychological self-defense and prevent them from being abused around you.

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April 4, 2024

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Cain Parish

Learn how to cold approach – initiating conversations with complete strangers.

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April 3, 2024

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Cain Parish

Successfully dating with trauma requires self-awareness, emotional regulation, and proactive healing rather than relying on a partner to fix past wounds.

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March 24, 2024

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Dating requires adaptability, not rigid strategies – learn to find success from reading and responding to unique interpersonal dynamics.

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February 16, 2024

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Escaping the grip of dating apps revealed that real attraction isn’t measured by algorithms but by genuine human connection.

Published

November 16, 2023

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Goal-oriented thinking is a mental framework designed to simplify decision-making by working backward from a desired outcome.

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November 9, 2023

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Learn how the ‘friend zone’ is constructed as a mental model and what to do if you’re inside it.

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November 8, 2023

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How Tinder and similar dating apps manipulate user engagement by exploiting self-esteem and gamifying your attraction.

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November 2, 2023

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What is the relationship anarchy smorgasbord? A concise method for picking what you want for your relationships.

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November 1, 2023

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Cain Parish

Listening is more than just hearing the words spoken by someone. It’s about understanding and interpretation.

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October 31, 2023

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Flirting is a blend of confidence, communication, and social awareness, allowing individuals to express attraction while gauging interest in a playful and engaging way. Learn how to flirt.

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October 30, 2023

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Cain Parish

Diagnose issues in speaking the language of your partner.

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October 24, 2023

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Learn what factors are involved in the impression made by how you choose to dress – on dates and otherwise.

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October 6, 2023

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Clinginess in relationships is often a response to insecurity or past trauma, manifesting as a need for constant reassurance.

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September 22, 2023

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Rejection activates emotional pain responses tied to past experiences. Here’s what to do with that.

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September 21, 2023

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Use situational awareness and smart thinking to work out the best date ideas for you and the person you’re looking to meet.

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September 17, 2023

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Learn about passive aggression – an indirect way of expressing hostility and negative sentiment.

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September 14, 2023

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How concern for men’s attitudes and mental health can be a topic worth discussing.

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September 6, 2023

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Mental health improvements don’t offer instant fixes but rather, create the foundation for sustainable progress.

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September 1, 2023

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Multiple relationships can coexist while balancing emotional complexity and situational nuance. Here’s how.

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August 31, 2023

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Successful relationships are built when both partners prioritise giving and collaboration over selfish desires.

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August 30, 2023

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Developing and refining intuition allows for quicker, more confident decision-making.

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August 28, 2023

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Unexamined impulses, rooted in past defense mechanisms, can lead to self-sabotage.

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August 27, 2023

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Cain Parish

Assertiveness is a skill you don’t need all the time, but is mandatory to have in your toolbelt.

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August 21, 2023

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Relationship anarchy prioritises personal autonomy and fluid boundaries, enabling partners to define their relationships freely while emphasising communication, consent and comfort of all involved.

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August 18, 2023

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Building a strong foundation through emotional connection, communication, and aligned values is important. How long does that take?

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August 17, 2023

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Cain Parish

Communication in relationships is not just about speaking but about ensuring clarity, emotional safety, and constructive dialogue

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August 16, 2023

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Cain Parish

Thoughtful compliments work best when they acknowledge a date’s unique qualities in a timely and relevant manner.

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August 15, 2023

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Cain Parish

Navigating different love languages in a relationship involves recognising your partner’s preferences and learning to express love in ways they value.

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July 19, 2023

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This is my evergreen statement – a general stance and philosophy towards my relationships that I hope carries into the rest of my life.

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June 28, 2023

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Ethical promiscuity is not about the number of partners but about intentionality, responsibility, and mutual respect.

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December 13, 2022

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Cain Parish

Understanding your relationship patterns requires re-parenting yourself and ensuring your choices stem from self-awareness.

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November 8, 2022

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Cain Parish

A breakup should be intentional, well-planned, and handled with emotional clarity to minimize harm and facilitate closure.

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November 5, 2022

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Cain Parish

The business of self-improvement has turned personal growth into a commodity, prioritising profit over real transformation.

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November 4, 2022

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Cain Parish

Casual dating is about balancing excitement with precaution, ensuring safety without sacrificing fun.

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November 3, 2022

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Cain Parish

Defining a relationship requires direct communication – waiting for clarity without asking ensures frustration.

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November 2, 2022

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Physical compatibility is a crucial factor in relationships, and testing it early can prevent emotional investment in a bad match.

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October 31, 2022

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Cain Parish

Seeking dating advice online often reinforces harmful biases instead of encouraging meaningful self-growth.

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March 18, 2022

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Cain Parish

Define your values intentionally and strive toward them, using self-awareness as a guide for growth rather than a source of regret.

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March 10, 2022

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Plausible deniability allows manipulators to avoid accountability by subtly directing conversations – learning to recognise and confront this tactic is the best defense.

Relationship & soft skills research, made accessible.

Science-backed guidance from social dynamics, linguistics & modern soft skills to help you build, develop and maintain relationships.

What do we do?

We write and publish independent research, think pieces and documentation on topics like:

Psychology

Sociology

Sociolinguistics

Social dynamics

Applied pragmatics

Relationship development

Dating & culture

Persuasion

Behaviour economics

Charisma

Linguistic philosophy

Generative language

Rapport building

Evidence-based insights into things like:

Selective Synonymy

Plausible Deniability

Pre – Suppositions

Relationship Roadmap

Emotional Intimacy

Perlocution Metrics

Overview

Intermediate

In-depth

Linguistics

Persuasion

Philosophy

Deep insights.Practical understanding.

Content and guides structuredby complexity & experience level.

Private topics, public education.

Open source information on the obscure and hard to learn.

Applied pragmatics

Sociolinguistics

Persuasion

Relationship development

Behaviour economics

Linguistic philosophy

Generative language

Rapport building

Sociology

Psychology

Charisma

Consultation on contentor composition.

Hands-on instruction for soft skills and linguistic automation.

About the team &the author, Cain Parish

8+ years of industry experience.

Cain Parish

Australian Author/Researcher

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Relationship & soft
skills research, made accessible.

Evidence-based insights
into things like:

Deep insights.
Practical understanding.

Content and guides structured
by complexity & experience level.

Private topics,
public education.

Open source information on
the obscure and hard to learn.

Consultation on content
or composition.

Hands-on instruction for soft skills and
linguistic automation.

About the team &
the author, Cain Parish