How To Be Attractive, aka Why Goth Girls Are Hot
Learn how to captivate desire and inspire passion in your partner. This is how to be attractive.
What are Presuppositions? Examples, Contexts and 5 Different Types
This article explains the concept of presupposition in communication and its impact on our daily interactions. In this article, you'll learn:
• The definition and core concepts of presupposition
• Various types of presuppositions and their functions
• Practical examples in everyday communication
• Related concepts in linguistics and psychology
• Implications for effective communication and persuasion
• Strategies for recognizing and dealing with presuppositions
Learn to understand our hidden assumptions and their powerful influence on our language and thought processes.
What Is A Power Dynamic? Psychological Self-Defense #2
We take a look at power dynamics - the underlying social forces and pressures that influence how we deal with other people.
We go into what a power dynamic is, how to recognise it, how it affects us and some common examples.
For anyone that feels they've been victim to a power imbalance, this article should help you defend yourself.
Let's get into it.
What Is Cold Approaching? The Complete 3 Part Guide
A cold approach, or the act of cold approaching, is the process of introducing yourself to someone you don't know. It was given prominence, particularly among male spaces, by pick-up artists and the like, as a reliable and consistent way to meet women.
On that note, they're not entirely wrong.
Cold approaching is, for all intents and purposes, the simplest way to meet someone new.
It doesn't require any activities or circumstantial contexts. You simply see someone you'd like to meet, and you take the steps to introduce yourself.
This guide is separated into three parts - the first for how to prepare yourself, the second for how to actually approach someone, and the third will be troubleshooting and some tips & tricks. Let's get into it.
How To Date With Trauma – 3 Ways To Keep Baggage From Interfering
Developing new relationships under the weight of past baggage can be almost impossible.
As much as we might want to find a way, learning how to date with trauma is not something you can just figure out overnight.
Learn important mindsets, tips & tricks, and understand yourself a little bit better.
How To Date – Dating Advice vs. Dating Success
When we think about how to date, we generally look for opinions. Crowdsourcing experiences and perspectives allow us to try and incorporate the logic of others into our own strategies - shortcutting the process of trying and failing ourselves. The problem with learning how to date, and many other similarly subjective fields, is that advice is given in general terms, where real life happens in specifics. Let's understand what this issue means and how to solve it.
Goal Oriented Thinking: 6 Steps To Achieve Your Goals
The thing standing between you and your goals isn't luck. It's not an accident that you don't have EXACTLY what you want from life. It's because you and your thoughts aren't on the same team. Your decision making is ruining you before you ever had a chance. This article is about goal-oriented thinking, a mental framework that we use to make decisions. Read now and take back control of your psychology.
The Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord: What Is It and How Does It Work?
Relationship anarchy is all about picking and choosing what you want from your relationships. You need a menu to select from. Enter, the relationship anarchy smorgasbord. By picking and choosing your boundaries, wants and needs, your relationships start to look exactly the way you want them. This is your guide to the smorgasbord itself.
How to Flirt with Someone You Just Met: A Full Guide To Flirting
Learning how to flirt can be hard. It's a specific skill we're never taught. The balance of humour, chemistry, romance and subtlety can be really difficult to balance without knowing how. Thankfully, this guide is here. This is a full guide to flirting, with someone you just met or have been interested in for a while. Read on to find out how it works.
Why Doesn’t My Boyfriend Communicate?
If you've ever asked yourself why your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't communicate with you, this article should help you answer that question. In the rest of this article, you'll learn how we learn to communicate, why we are the way we are, and what to do about it. This should give you everything you need to solve a communication breakdown inside your relationship. Let's get started.
How to Deal With Rejection: A Guide to Emotional Resilience
Whether it's a declined job application or an unrequited love, the emotional toll can be devastating. But what if I told you that rejection isn't the end of the world? In fact, it can be a stepping stone to personal growth and emotional resilience. In this article, we'll explore the psychology of rejection and provide actionable steps to handle it gracefully.
Psychological Self-Defense: What Is Passive Aggression?
We are tackling passive aggression, a particularly subtle form of emotional manipulation. Learn how it works, why it happens, how to recognise it and how to defend against it.
The Zero-Sum Game: Making Men Feel Better
In the balance of gender dynamics, men and women are competitive. I, and dozens of others, think that doesn't need to be true. Read now, and discover what a healthy philosophy on improving a large chunk of the human population looks like.
What Are Open Relationships And Polyamory – A Comprehensive Guide
For people that either don't enjoy monogamy or want to try something new, the concept of open relationships and polyamory can be very interesting. But what are open relationships? Let's find out what they mean and how they work.
Why Selfless Relationships Last Longer – How To Be Less Selfish
Selfish relationships are what we're pushed into, by our peers, our environment and our surroundings. We learn to be ruthless and transactional from our past experiences, especially if they such. This article tells you how to think about it to avoid the consequences.
Trusting Your Gut: How To Listen To Your Intuition and Make Better Decisions
In a world filled with endless choices and complex decisions, finding a reliable compass to guide you can be challenging. Your intuition, often referred to as your "gut feeling," is that innate sense within you that can offer profound insights and guide you toward better decisions. Trusting your gut is not just a hunch; it's a skill that can be cultivated to make more informed choices. This article delves into the art of listening to your intuition, providing actionable steps, personal experiences, and expert advice to help you harness the power of your instincts.
The Bad Behaviour Problem: Why Good People Do Bad Things
Self-control is harder than you'd think. It can be incredibly challenging to maintain our values in the face of trauma, ancient defense mechanisms, and the temptations that life throws us. This article is all about how good people do bad things. Let's get started.
What is Relationship Anarchy? Exploring Non-Traditional Relationships
In a world where relationships are often defined by societal norms and labels, relationship anarchy strikes me as a refreshing and liberating concept. Most people begin by raising the question; what is relationship anarchy? Relationship anarchy challenges traditional notions of relationships by emphasising individual autonomy, open communication, and the absence of hierarchical structures. In this article, we'll delve deep into the intricacies of relationship anarchy, exploring its principles, benefits, and potential challenges.
How Long Should You Date Before Getting into a Relationship?
In the realm of modern dating, the journey from casual dating to a committed relationship can be both exciting and daunting. You might find yourself pondering, "How long should you date before getting into a relationship?" This question doesn't have a one-size-fits-all answer, as it depends on various factors such as personal preferences, emotional connection, and shared values. In this comprehensive guide, we'll delve into the intricacies of relationship timelines, providing you with valuable insights to make an informed decision about your romantic journey.
How To Develop Good Communication In A Relationship
Effective communication is the cornerstone of a healthy and fulfilling relationship. It goes beyond just exchanging words; it involves listening, understanding, and empathizing with your partner. In this comprehensive guide, we'll delve into the various facets of communication that contribute to successful relationships. Whether you're in a new romance or a long-term commitment, understanding what good communication looks like can enhance your connection and lead to lasting happiness.
The Evergreen Statement
This is one of the first essays I ever wrote that described my views of the world, humans and relationships. It means a lot to me. I hope you enjoy it.
The Ethical Whore
Promiscuity is a bad thing. Until it isn't. And then it is again. Is it possible to sleep around without judgement, shame or hurt feelings? I certainly think so. Let's find out how.
Lasting Love and Happiness: Strategies From A Pick-Up Artist
Are you tired of being alone? Fed up with striking out with potential partners? It’s time to try something new and revolutionary: the world of pick-up artists and their controversial relationship advice!
Found on the dark side of dating advice, they claim to teach the key to unlocking the hearts of anyone they desire. Quite rightly, not everyone is a fan of these so-called experts, and some say their techniques are manipulative and even dangerous. Problematic, sexist, and downright harmful to a generation of sex-obsessed young men, they’re looked down on with ridicule and scorn. Most of us are urged not to listen to them or mimic their techniques and opinions, lest we fall into similarly predatory behaviors…
Naturally, I went and read a bunch of their books. This is what I learned.
The Incel Trajectory: How Men Turn Into Monsters
I’ve been told by multiple online gurus that you should be documenting and not creating. Whatever creative medium you’re pursuing, the value comes from demonstrating your journey from novice to master. More than that, the reason someone would look upon that progression from an outside perspective is that they want to learn the same thing that you have, but quicker. We watch cooking videos to skip experimenting with recipes ourselves, and to learn what works best from someone else that’s already done it. Therefore, the value in documentation comes from blazing a trail and allowing the next generation to learn from your successes and failures.
How To Have a Healthy And Safe Casual Relationship
The number one thing men fear on dating apps is that the girl will be overweight. The number one thing women fear is dying. Casual relationships have a stigma - that they're unsafe or unhealthy. That doesn't have to be the case. Here's some ground rules to help.
Bad Sex Is Better Than A Good Breakup – Sleeping Together Early
Finding out your relationship sucks before it starts is one thing. Finding out it sucks after you're already in it is worse. Here's an article strongly arguing for a more thorough vetting process - and to have a little fun while you do it.
How To Get Girls To Like You By Looking At Things On The Internet
The information online about how to get girls is as vast as it is ridiculous. There's a good way and a bad way to find your information about relationships online. In this article, we learn why and how that is.
Psychological Self-Defense: Plausible Deniability and How To Deal With It
Psychological self-defense is just as important as the physical kind. We train our bodies to be resistant to attack or strain, but we don't train our mind. Here's an article about plausible deniability, a common tactic used by manipulators and liars to disguise what they're doing.